Breaking up is hard to do
Jun. 27th, 2006 09:06 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kingandyWell, no, it turns out it takes surprisingly little effort.
So, yeah, we broke up. As a note for future relationships, ten weeks between first and second date is Too Long.
Long-distance relationships can work, but when you go that long without seeing one another (a) you become increasingly distant and (b) it's a pretty clear sign that both of you are more committed to things other than the relationship itself; the two make for a pretty vicious feedback cycle. Between weeks spent unavailable, horrible contagious illness and once-in-a-lifetime LARP events it was as though events conspired against us, but still, we could have made the time or risked the infection[1] or whatever - neither of us really went out of our way[2]. Distance permitting, maybe it could have been more than casual, but it wasn't, and London is a long way for casual.
I'd like to say it was a fun three months but, at the end of the day, it was really a fun two weekends. With a lot of MSN conversation in between. No regrets, though - it was a fun two weekends.
[1] I was tempted, but he insisted.
[2] Truncated Maelstroms and journeys to London notwithstanding.
So, yeah, we broke up. As a note for future relationships, ten weeks between first and second date is Too Long.
Long-distance relationships can work, but when you go that long without seeing one another (a) you become increasingly distant and (b) it's a pretty clear sign that both of you are more committed to things other than the relationship itself; the two make for a pretty vicious feedback cycle. Between weeks spent unavailable, horrible contagious illness and once-in-a-lifetime LARP events it was as though events conspired against us, but still, we could have made the time or risked the infection[1] or whatever - neither of us really went out of our way[2]. Distance permitting, maybe it could have been more than casual, but it wasn't, and London is a long way for casual.
I'd like to say it was a fun three months but, at the end of the day, it was really a fun two weekends. With a lot of MSN conversation in between. No regrets, though - it was a fun two weekends.
[1] I was tempted, but he insisted.
[2] Truncated Maelstroms and journeys to London notwithstanding.
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Date: 2006-06-27 08:39 am (UTC)ah well - do you think you've grown/advanced/matured/learnt some useful shit from it?
hey ho. at least you fall into the category of single with extremely good hair...
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Date: 2006-06-27 09:09 am (UTC)... n/m
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Date: 2006-06-27 10:22 am (UTC)That's way too much baggage, even for a rebound thing.
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Date: 2006-06-27 11:26 am (UTC)I kind of assumed you'd read the book you gave me...
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Date: 2006-06-27 12:17 pm (UTC)Now you can accept any offers recieved, as it usually is the way that you only get people coming onto you when your in a relationship already.
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Date: 2006-06-27 12:37 pm (UTC)Slightly more understandable in certain circumstances, I suppose, as "I've got a boyfriend" is a pretty good indicator of orientation where otherwise may be unclear...
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Date: 2006-06-27 12:41 pm (UTC)... also he's quite pretty in his default shape. ;)
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Date: 2006-06-27 01:46 pm (UTC)Might see you at Maelstrom?
T x
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Date: 2006-06-27 02:05 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-27 02:08 pm (UTC)Long distance, never fun in the long run. Take it from one who has had long bitter experience of many of them (well, about 3) one or two of which may well have worked out if it hadn't been long distance.
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Date: 2006-06-27 02:37 pm (UTC)Go get yourself some hawt assss etc. Just not in The Village. Its a repugnant scene and nobody shows their best side there, except in the crassest sense. Plus, all that Red Good/Yellow Bad, things in the forest nonsense gets a bit tedious.
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Date: 2006-06-27 02:48 pm (UTC)I am not a number!
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Date: 2006-06-27 02:52 pm (UTC)Ohhh, I haven't seen that movie yet...
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Date: 2006-06-27 11:44 pm (UTC)Much drinkage @ Maelstrom and mancunian fun post!