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kingandyWindscreen repair kit did not have a great deal of effect. Will have to take a ruler to it, see if it is under the 10mm crack limit. May ring windscreen people to see how much it would cost to replace the whole damn thing.
A few weeks ago I noticed that I tend to try to get the last word in a conversation; when disengaging, there's usually a certain amount of back and forth ("See you then, then - So long - b'bye"), and I'd been going to some length to claim the last farewell. If somebody says something, I just have to respond to it, and that's something I've been doing in LJ as well. So I've been trying to do it less, both LJ and RL. It is quite difficult. I just thought I'd mention, in case people think I haven't been very polite lately. Since that is why I do it, after all - I instinctively consider it quite rude not to acknowledge somebody's communication. Or something.
I am sure great psychological studies have been made on the subject of conversational behaviour such as this. I am unaware of any of their conclusions.
A few weeks ago I noticed that I tend to try to get the last word in a conversation; when disengaging, there's usually a certain amount of back and forth ("See you then, then - So long - b'bye"), and I'd been going to some length to claim the last farewell. If somebody says something, I just have to respond to it, and that's something I've been doing in LJ as well. So I've been trying to do it less, both LJ and RL. It is quite difficult. I just thought I'd mention, in case people think I haven't been very polite lately. Since that is why I do it, after all - I instinctively consider it quite rude not to acknowledge somebody's communication. Or something.
I am sure great psychological studies have been made on the subject of conversational behaviour such as this. I am unaware of any of their conclusions.
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Date: 2004-09-10 04:00 am (UTC)Sometimes silence is the best policy, as is not having the last word.
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Date: 2004-09-10 04:05 am (UTC)Other times, it's just annoying and it's good enough to just say "fine I won't do that any more" and deal with it.
Related to conversation: if you still want the last word, those dang'ol Scientologists actually had a series of exercises in controlling one's language in such a way as to guide a conversation to remain open or to finish it off. It's deviously simple, actually, as certain words or phrases are "leading" and suggest the end of a thought, or an open request for more information.
It should be easy enough, in verbal conversation, to put together a language toolbox that will suit whatever changes you're trying to implement in your own speech (without having to talk to a Scientologist about it).
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Date: 2004-09-10 04:14 am (UTC)they were told not to change their diet or exercise regimes and on average they lost 5kg over the course of the study (a few months i think.)
i would use some text directly from the NS archive but it's being mean and not letting me in. curse it.
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Date: 2004-09-10 05:08 am (UTC)* Check first.
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Date: 2004-09-10 05:15 am (UTC)You're right that it's programmed, rather than instinctive, though. I once pulled somebody up for saying "it becomes instinctive" - if it was an instinct, it wouldn't need to be practiced... now I catch myself doing it all the time. D'oh!
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Date: 2004-09-10 06:41 am (UTC)Such protracted farewells usually end with one party yelping "BYE!" and ducking out of the door before the other can respond.
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Date: 2004-09-10 07:27 am (UTC)See? I need to have the last word.