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kingandy ([personal profile] kingandy) wrote2006-06-27 09:06 am
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Breaking up is hard to do

Well, no, it turns out it takes surprisingly little effort.

So, yeah, we broke up. As a note for future relationships, ten weeks between first and second date is Too Long.

Long-distance relationships can work, but when you go that long without seeing one another (a) you become increasingly distant and (b) it's a pretty clear sign that both of you are more committed to things other than the relationship itself; the two make for a pretty vicious feedback cycle. Between weeks spent unavailable, horrible contagious illness and once-in-a-lifetime LARP events it was as though events conspired against us, but still, we could have made the time or risked the infection[1] or whatever - neither of us really went out of our way[2]. Distance permitting, maybe it could have been more than casual, but it wasn't, and London is a long way for casual.

I'd like to say it was a fun three months but, at the end of the day, it was really a fun two weekends. With a lot of MSN conversation in between. No regrets, though - it was a fun two weekends.

[1] I was tempted, but he insisted.
[2] Truncated Maelstroms and journeys to London notwithstanding.

[identity profile] sarah-orange.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 08:39 am (UTC)(link)
poo!

ah well - do you think you've grown/advanced/matured/learnt some useful shit from it?

hey ho. at least you fall into the category of single with extremely good hair...

[identity profile] ed-fortune.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 08:40 am (UTC)(link)
General hugs and the like. No regrets is a good thing.

[identity profile] nattydreadi.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 08:58 am (UTC)(link)
Now, get to the village and score some hawt ass!

[identity profile] rob-e-coyote.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 09:56 am (UTC)(link)
Commiserations on things not working, but like everyone else said, no regrets = not the best result, but good.

[identity profile] wulfboy.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 10:18 am (UTC)(link)
It could have been worse. He might have strapped you to train tracks, or fired you out of a tube into the Thames. Ah well, I hear the Vision is still single.

[identity profile] ed-fortune.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 10:49 am (UTC)(link)
Is the Ass-Guardian/Wiccan Avaiable? I also hear that Namor likes short shorts a bit much, if you get my meaning.

[identity profile] ed-fortune.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 11:21 am (UTC)(link)
Northstar?

[identity profile] foul-temptress.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 12:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Sorry but yur right, it sounded like a long distance freindship than relationship.
Now you can accept any offers recieved, as it usually is the way that you only get people coming onto you when your in a relationship already.

[identity profile] ed-fortune.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 12:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Not for Wiccan silly, for you...

[identity profile] ed-fortune.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 12:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Pity Hulkling isn't single. Shapeshifters must be the best fun.

[identity profile] amber-missy.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 01:46 pm (UTC)(link)
General *hugs*

Might see you at Maelstrom?

T x

[identity profile] areteus.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 02:08 pm (UTC)(link)
[Please insert appropriate cliche ridden speech regarding piscine organisms inhabiting large marine bodies here]

Long distance, never fun in the long run. Take it from one who has had long bitter experience of many of them (well, about 3) one or two of which may well have worked out if it hadn't been long distance.

[identity profile] si-lloyd.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 02:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Meh. Yeah, just take it on board as a thing that you did.

Go get yourself some hawt assss etc. Just not in The Village. Its a repugnant scene and nobody shows their best side there, except in the crassest sense. Plus, all that Red Good/Yellow Bad, things in the forest nonsense gets a bit tedious.

[identity profile] si-lloyd.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 04:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I was being a bit obscure there.

[identity profile] si-lloyd.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 04:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, yeah, insert The Prisoner joke in there too.

[identity profile] angelfire-75.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 05:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Commiserations. Well now you have every excuse to tart like mad at 'Strom and a very viable excuse to go to thee Village.

[identity profile] kestrana.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 07:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Thats too bad, I own it on DVD and rather enjoy it. Plus Joaquin Phoenix....yumyum

[identity profile] elektrobard.livejournal.com 2006-06-27 09:52 pm (UTC)(link)
Dude! I'm sorry to hear that - this one's definitely in the 'dodgy week' folder. I shall endeavour to bring bonus munchies to Star Wars tomorrow, though I'm gonna be a little late - checking out potential new place...

[identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/vervain_/ 2006-06-27 11:11 pm (UTC)(link)
It certainly made things rather obvious yes.

[identity profile] http://users.livejournal.com/vervain_/ 2006-06-27 11:44 pm (UTC)(link)
well *huge smooch*

Much drinkage @ Maelstrom and mancunian fun post!

[identity profile] ash1977law.livejournal.com 2006-06-28 12:02 pm (UTC)(link)
*manly hugs*