Reevaluation

[kingandy]

I've never been a believer in the long-distance relationship. I mean, I know they exist, and I'm sure that people get a lot out of them, but personally I've never seen the appeal. Commuting across the country, shuffling your life so you can snatch a few scant moments with your honey, then driving home again. Somehow this is referred to as "going out with". It seems to me an exercise in futility, and one which will inevitably end badly, with one party or the other on the short end of the commute, or simply growing apart. The Sims, after all, teach us that relationships need to be constantly reinforced by social contact.

That said, today I find myself driven to distraction by an unreasoningly strong urge to reevaluate my position on the matter.

Damn his eyes

Comments

[mistressp.livejournal.com]

The long-term relationships that I've failed at all failed for other reasons. It's easier to blame the miles and the free time on your own for a split, when, in reality, it was probably due to you both thinking the other is a bit of a tosser. LDR's can drag out the death of a relationship by a few months - but they can't kill a good relationship all on their own.

For that you need infidelity ;)

[ajon.livejournal.com]

Rich and I went out whilst he was in Manchester, I was in London (which was hard, because he had loads of friends and distractions nearby and I had none) and then between London and Oxford, which was much better.

I missed him and Manchester really badly but it probably deepened our relationship whilst in London/Oxford as we realised how much we meant to each other.

LDR's are expensive and tiring. We ended up doing a one week one way, one week the other, a third off and fourth to SoS. I'd agree with Katie about spending quality time doing things together though.

[kingandy]

I thought he was in London and you were in Manchester.

There were meals.

You cooked!

[renniek.livejournal.com]

Rich in Manchester and Al in London happened many years ago in the before-time when you hadn't started uni yet.
Then where was Rich in Oxford, then both of them in London, then we finally managed to get them both in Manchester at the same time.

[kingandy]

Ahhhh. Retroactive continuity, I see.

[ajon.livejournal.com]

I think it was Rich in M/cr, Al in Berkhamsted (1996), Al & Rich in Manchester(1997), Rich in Oxford, Al in M/cr (1998), Al in London, Rich in Oxford (1999,2000), Al & Rich both in London (2001-2003) and then a move to Bolton.

You asked!